Question for my followers…..


As submissives, we’re greedy. Let’s not kid ourselves, we’re greedy about what’s ours. As for a poly relationship, I cannot speak for them as i’m not Poly, either way I know from my standpoint we’re gonna protect what’s ours and that’s that. However, I know that often times we ought to appreciate our Domly Dom fellas (And Lady Dommes too!) Many things can help them see how much we appreciate all the things they do for us! Baths, body massages, cooking dinner, gifts, love notes, screaming orgasms…. etc. I love spoiling my Master. Whether in gifts, blow jobs, hot baths, whatever will make him feel like the King, I will do it. It brings me such joy to do so!


So here’s the question to those who actually read & follow my blog: What do you do or have done for your Sir/Mistresses to show your appreciation and affection for them???


Game. Set. Match.

In D/s we (and by “we” I mean submissive) generally want that feeling of stability. Peace. We want to know that the Dominant has got it under control. And by “it” I mean the relationship, the dynamic, the protocols, the play scenes, etc. That they have themselves figured out as well as us as their submissive and that everything will be hunky-dory right?

disputes-des-parentsWe do our best. Our dominants/dommes/tops/daddys/Sirs/Masters do their best. But even then it seems it’s just not enough and when that happens the other party feels sometimes hurt and other times anger. Especially when the other falls just short of what is needed. For me, especially I have that primal side in me. And sometimes it’s as if it’s a blessing and a curse. To all those that I dated in the past when we’d argue or fight I assumed the Alpha spot. I challenged them by yelling and arguing, and if I was REALLY pissed off, you’d bet i’d square up to them and be ready to fight for the top spot. I have been the one who’d punch her significant other right in the chest. It’s happened a time or two. Piss me off just enough. Not something I’m proud of but not something I’m ashamed of either. To me it was just proof that many were weaker than me, that I’m not the kind to ever have anyone who’s able to handle me nor be able to last with me. As I’ve said before, I break men. With Master, he’s the first to really deal with that. He’s squared up right back, and without ever laying a hand on me, allows me to challenge him but never succeed. So I may yell, I may scream and cuss him eight ways from Sunday; But he will not budge and remain Alpha. It took me all day to really see that. I was furious earlier today, to the point where I took it out on my fists and a hard object. I’m proud of myself of not making that hard object him. Many think,”Wow, she’s insane.” but to me, I see the progress. Because of the things I endured a couple of years ago I have felt nothing but anger. Perhaps because no one should ever go through the things I did, but regardless I felt there was no help for me. Maybe this is a sign i’m getting better? Master…. He really did stand his ground despite how much I squared off and showed my teeth at him, yet not once did he ever show his throat. If you’re unsure of those terms, google them, if not it’s a simple way of saying he didn’t ever turn into my prey.

Perhaps the Alpha Dominant is back……

My original point is, that when the other falls short of what is needed, I ask to dominants not to tuck tail and feel like failures or become of unsure of yourselves. Stand your ground. She’s going to be angry and hurt and upset. Why? Because you are supposed to be the rock and her rock is broken and the fear of the rug being pulled out from under her is VERY real. Not to say it’s not what you also feel at times, but let’s face it, women aren’t the best at the emotions or expressing things in ways the male species can understand.

So when she snarls and you, Look into her eyes and find her beyond the anger. She’s waiting for you to reassure and remind her that you have this under control. She’s safe. She’s still protected. She’s still loved. And she’s still yours…………