So as I mentioned before I am sick. I have been sick for a good week now. I’ve taken meds, seen the doctor but i’m still sicky, yucky and cruddy. And does it effect my moods. I’m whiny, needy and i’m so incredibly annoyed with myself I could easily beat myself to a pulp. Because I am like this, I know it effects my Master. He is still trying to deal with Dom-drop on top of other things that we deal with on a daily basis. I know it can’t be easy and I can’t find myself to make him understand how viable it is that he address his Dom drop before my illness. Contradictory right? So many times we see Dominants as these strong, versatile, impenetrable moments that keep us submissives together when our days are long and tired.
There is no doubt about the fact that we as submissives, have a lot to face in our lives and our relationships with our Dominants, but what many may not understand fully is that the Dominant may fall under the pressure of life that can kill him slowly. It can take a lot of hard work from the submissive to infiltrate the walls he built around him and be able to understand what is hurting him emotionally. Unlike the popular beliefs, a submissive is a major force and strength within BDSM relationships because she does possess the power to heal her dominant in so many ways that no other can and it is her duty to connect enough with her Dominant to find out when he start to fall down. Dom drop is very hard to distinguish and can be “fatal” to a Dominant and a dynamic if you’re not careful. No Sir wants to acknowledge that they’re feeling less than or weak. And I will never see my Master as such, but I know with all the activities and power exchange that took part in 3 small days, his mind and soul are tired and heavy. As I said in previous posts before, Some dominant may not wish to expose such side of their personality to their submissive or wishes to not put their burden upon their submissives so don’t take him, saying he’s “okay” for granted because usually he may be facing a lot of issues but simply doesn’t wish to say it. Last night Master, I knew was still battling fatigue, event drop along with his Dom drop ON TOP of his demons and the urge to care for me through my illness. Yet despite all that I wanted to just spend time with him, in a non-kinky way. I put on a movie I knew he would enjoy, we made popcorn and just snuggled together as one. Granted it was late and we were both tired, but it was a moment we could share as one. As a submissive you may face resistance of him, anger or even solid silence, but don’t give up on him and continue to offer him safe environment and constant support to let him open up for you. Sometimes he doesn’t need BDSM related activities but ..a Kiss , a simple ” I am here for you”, a silent sit down with him till he talks, a gesture of pure compassion or a feeling of your love comforting him may heal him from deepest wounds. Remember, you are his haven, his home and everything he wanted and that is why he is there with you when he falls. Take care of him and he will take care of you. …..